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Iím 40 y.o. from Denmark. For 2010 Ė 2014 I had 10 attempts of IFV on my own eggs. it has been exhausted challenge. And you understand how it was hard getting nothing from my attempts. Each attempt was failed due to low quality of embryos. I have no contraindications to childbearing so I still want to experience this. Time goes and my embryosí quality canít get better. And my husband and I want to try to go through the DE ivf, it may help us to make our old dream come true. In medical document I officially have an infertility of endocrine genesis. Now I need to be advised what the next step we should make. 1 Rozental
3/6/2017
well there's nothing to say rather you should go for egg donation or even surrogacy? or maybe I am too straightforward? first of all you should have a consultation with a gyno or a fertility specialist. that will be the right way to do it. but if you are asking about your further actions I would say that after you have a consultation with a specialist you should start googling egg donation options... because if it did not work out after 10 attempts of IVf on your own eggs I do not think that there are a lot of chances to get pregnant after another round of IVF oe... good luck with your search! I do not think that I can advise you something as I am starting my surrogacy program but in my clinic they offer egg donation ivf too at least I know one thing for sure that they allow you choosing donors!! that's like 100% 2 bethany2
3/6/2017
oh hi hon. so sorry for you multiple failed cycles... i thought i was the only one here trying to fight infertility. it's so painful to see lots of young girls posting about their unwanted pregnancy at 14-17...I just want to have a baby, one more baby actually. I don't know what happened, I became a mother after the first de ivf round. my donor was young and healthy girl and we got great embies and 6 jf them were freezed after transfer. I had 3 more cycles with the same embryos but no go. Dr told me to consider surrogacy as an option...but i want to bear my baby on my own.. I wish you to stay strong and follow your dream. 2 yamamma
3/6/2017
Yup, no hope for OE pregnancy, itís awful. But my desire is strong, I want to gift a baby or two for my DH in the nearest future. I feel power for that but not for another tedious disappointment. I had a talk and consultation. The doctor said that he didnít see reasons for us to be upset. I still can carry a child, my uterus is in well condition. So we need searching for options. Before today I havenít tried to post on the forums but read a lot. There are many clinics which provide DE treatment in Europe. basically these are the variants from eastern europe. And the things youíre saying are amazing. It will be perfect if I can choose my donor from the relevant database. Actually we also want to use fresh cells in fertilization. Does your clinic have this or they work only with frozen materials from the donors? 3 Rozental
3/6/2017
One thing is the happiness for some people and the misfortune for other ones. I envy them and do not the same time. If I had my baby at 14 I think, Iíd be worrying about this. But now I crave having my first-born and as you I want to bear baby by myself to feel everything related to this. And if itís possible I want to experience this pregnancy on the fresh d-eggs, I donít trust in successful outcome of the frozen fertilization. 4 Rozental
3/6/2017
@Rozental, i totally understand you. I think in my case another donor's eggs could help. I'm ready to go through few more rounds in order to deliver a baby personally. I like to be pregnant, I can't explain what a lovely period it is. Do you have any ideas? I was told about few clinics with guarantees. I think it's the best option, refund in case of negative results in a few cycles in a row. 5 yamamma
3/6/2017
@yamamma Iím absolutely agreed with you. Exactly I want to experience this holy mission. I want to remember every event during my pregnancy. Want to get a support and love from my favorite man, I know he would supply. So can you share? Every information is important now. What did you hear about any clinics and why did they seem attractive to you? 6 Rozental
3/6/2017
@Rozental, there are lots of clinics with guarantee IVF programs in the USA, but I don't know the details, because i'm from Europe and here there are also decent variants. in Prague, for example, there is a clinic which guarantee 3d ivf cycle in case of 2 failed ones, in Kiev you could sign for a package including 5 attempts and in case of negatives you'll get your money back. I've met some more options I guess, but can't remember now. 7 yamamma
3/6/2017
@yamamma You mean Iíll get my money back if this doesnít work for 5 times? It sounds attractive and questionably. I think this clinic has a big confidence in its success. Guess they donít want to give money back, losing so much of time and meds. From all sides itís better for them to make everything right and satisfy us. Why do you know all this? Did you have your experience there? 8 Rozental
3/6/2017
@Rozental, you're tight, they are sure in success of the program, but of course they need to make certain of the fact you suit the program. they have experienced donors and that's why they are so confident it will work. I haven't been there personally, but I tried to find any information about refunds and found none. hope it's a good sign. I'm thinking of contacting few clinic and maybe thhis one with 5 attempts will be good enough for us. Good luck to you x 9 yamamma
3/6/2017
@yamama Thank you very much, this was very useful to know. What about their ďexperienced donorsĒ? did they have their own healthy children before they take part in the programs? And it is an amazing sign only in case if information wasnít hidden. Hah. How can anyone to apply to them? Sorry, for such number of questions, perhaps you donít know the answer. 10 Rozental
3/7/2017
Rozental, one of the main requirements to egg donors in the clinic is thet a donor must have at least one healthy baby to become a part of the program. The are also young ladies, so you'll have a good number of eggs to fertilize. At least it's what I know from their website 11 yamamma
3/9/2017
yamamma Very interesting! Also speaking about donors, who are these women? And why are they engaged in this? these are general questions, perhaps you are right and it was better to look through their site. But if itís possible I want you to tell me a bit about it. Thank you. 12 Rozental
3/9/2017
well as far as I understood, those women decided to become egg donors just to help others, they don't get much money for this, so it's not the way to make money. these young girls, 18-25 yo, are of different appearence, have various hobbies and occupations. all info you'll get when you are ready to start treatment. I was told I can get an access to a donor database and look through candidates. there are not only brief information bout them, but also photos and even video interviews 13 yamamma
3/9/2017
@yamamma Very pleasant to find it out. I guess the facts that they have to have an own healthy baby and theyíre young the same time are wonderful. I like it. You said we could select because db includes of lot of variants, how many women are there? Just approximately. Can we meet our chosen? If we chose two or three would anyone help us to leave the most relevant one? 14 Rozental
3/9/2017
rosental, you can choose 5-7 donors or so and there are about 300 in total. when you make a decision, you must put down donors' numbers in priority order. final decision on which donor to stimulate is up to a doctor and he must know which candidate you prefer 15 yamamma
3/9/2017
@yamamma Alright! I know you are just in preparation to have a treatment in this clinic. But you are already aware of so many informative facts. You give a real help, dear. Thank you for that and for your time Iím stealing. You maynít know but how much time can the first steps take? I mean time from our initial consultation till fertilization? 16 Rozental
3/9/2017
well, I can't know for sure, yo're right. In my last clinic it took me about 3 months for fresh cycle and a bit less for fet. 17 yamamma
3/9/2017
Summing up, I want to ask perhaps the last question. Where should I apply with my problem? And what can I expect? I got acquainted with the site that you offered me. They offer three types of the treatment concerning my issue, i mean three contract types. What better to choose. Perhaps Iím delaying my conversation to the manager, but Iím grateful you're giving me advices. 18 Rozental
3/10/2017
I meant I had been on several Ukrainian websites. And Iíve found the one that can fit your description. Itís biotexcom, isnít it? Correct me please if I made a mistake. Really good offers, quite interesting. Or what can you recommend? 19 Rozental
3/10/2017
for a momemt I thought you can read read my mind lol. you're right it's biotexcom, really good prices for services they provide, defo better than in my prev clinic. I can't tell you which pack is better for you, such decision is up to you. moreover I can't know more than you, just only few detailes I shared with you before. discuss this issue with your husband and choose the best option for you two. 20 yamamma
3/10/2017
Ok! Hah we had a short talk about biotex. It was: -Donít you want to look at its site? -why? How do you think itís good to us? -perhaps, yup. -Perfect! Call them! What you want from me? Hah! Funny. Then he asked about some aspects, types of contracts, prices, providing. Too much info, canít keep everything in my mind. Well, I didnít call ( either mail) them yet. Iíd be useful to compare other Ukrainian variants, but I hadnít ever heard about others. Are there any different clinics in Ukraine? Or that was enough to know of biotex? 21 Rozental
3/13/2017
haha really funny. he is a busy person and he gives you a chance to choose, yeh? well, there are other clinics in Ukraine- Nadiya, Isida in Kiev, la Vita Nova agency and Feskov clinic in kharkiv, Intersono in Lviv. I compared them and Biotexcom suits me most. You may compare them on your own. eggdonationfriends website has an option of comparing different fertility clinics all over the world, must be useful for you. 22 yamamma
3/13/2017
Jeez! So many! I assume I found out about biotex first of all and it was such a sign I have to follow. I think it can prove their good advertising work and work to customers. I remember I met one name from your list! It wasnít positive feedback, but Iíve thoughts it was about Poland clinic. Perhaps these countries are near to each other. Curiously to see reviews by people who were in those reproductive centers. 23 Rozental
3/13/2017
in Poland there is a clinic Invicta,maybe it resembles of Intersono? That website I gave you has reviews of real clients of all these clinics, you may look through them 24 yamamma
3/13/2017
@yamamma I was on other site and saw a post by one woman. I can even say Ďby finally happy womaní who had her cycle in biotexcom. There were more than 15 previous ivf rounds before in her life. (exactly I canít say for sure it was a true or not but such story was told.) as well as I donít know she had ivf on OE or not. She successfully has passed through the DE ivf and remains satisfied. If I understood correctly she was at the 20 week of her pregnancy while posting and felt as fine as it was possible. Before this attempt she thought that her dream died. but miracles happen. What do you think about it? 25 Rozental
3/14/2017
oh 15.. she's even more sick then you are haha, just kidding. it's great that after years of ttc she finally managed to become mommy. now it's our turn i guess, hun. i think we need to do the first steps. have you had medicals recently? 26 yamamma
3/14/2017
Am on the stage of communicating to one center. Iím asking questions. (sometimes receive answers ahhah). I feel like something is boiling inside me (donít think itís a stomach upset) itís a sign that my patience will burst soon. And Iíll do it again. The battle goes on! and yes i had 27 Rozental
3/14/2017
HELLO ROZENTAL! Awful that you always get negative result. Do you know the reason why? I mean your endocrine issues caused multiple failures? If you have no contraindications then you are lucky enough. I didn't know that doctors are ready to perform more IVF rounds after this number of failed attempts. I'm pregnant now with my third child and DE IVf is the only thing that helped me to become a mom. But before you start, you must be sure that you could receive all the necessary information about donor, health state above all and only then pay attention to her appearance. 28 pin
3/15/2017
to PIN I guess if clinic has its donor database they can provide us with all necessary information. Donors can be anonymous, but we have a right to study information about them. Iíd never use an egg from anybody whose appearance and lifestyle were hidden from me. I saw you had the successful experience through DE iVF. Did you have an opportunity to select your donor? did you possess enough information about her? 29 Rozental
3/15/2017
according to the law of Ukraine, my clinic is there, all the donors must be anonymous even if they would like to meet those people who use their eggs. them's the rules. I've got all the information I needed, I know about donor's grandparents health state and their occupation. But some agencies or clinics don't give you any information and photos of donors or choose them on their own at all. be careful 30 pin
3/16/2017
to pin Canít understand why someone approves such law. I donít see any dangerous to meet my donor. Perhaps itís only my opinion and somebody else thinks that itís just a dealing and thereís no reason to see the donor in real. Actually strange but for sure we canít know whose eggs are used in our fertilization. I mean eggs donít look like their owners. Nevertheless itís perfect you said your clinic had such a great base. Very interesting to check. 31 Rozental
3/16/2017
there is no need to understand laws haha, just accept them or at least try to. to be honest I don't understand your eggs and faces comparison. but you are right in some way, for example, i still don't want to meet my donor. i'm extremely grateful for the help but a deal is a deal. hige database i mentioned is in biotex clinic 32 yamamma
3/16/2017
yamamma, I think that message was meant for me. but you are perfectly right. not everyone is ready to meet with a donor. But I think I'm among those people who would love to see that lovely young woman and to thank her personally. and biotexcom, I wrote about it too. 33 pin
3/16/2017
@yamamma Thank you very much for recommendations and advice. You may think this way but I have my own opinions. But the most important thing to each of us is to have a positive result and feel safety during the treatment. Itís really great that they have such base. Very good for them they offer fresh egg donation. I think so. 34 Rozental
3/16/2017
I frequently heard about this clinic, about its good service and donor database. Right now Iím a bit confused to hear about this from different women. Iím happy for your choice and your outcomes and I want to know is there any site or forum where I can find out more stories from real biotex clients collected in one place? Like a guest book 35 Rozental
3/16/2017
Rozental, of course, i respect your point of view. you may look through success rates in different clinics and compare the results. but keep in mind that every clinic has own ways of calculating them. if you got a bfp, one clinic will express it as a positive result no matter if you delivered a baby. another clinic may make calculations regarding live birth rate. so, everything is relative. 36 yamamma
3/20/2017
@rozental if you were to that clinic, you would see that there are maaany couples from different countries. it's not surprising at all to witness different people discussing the same things. you may find specialized forums for infertile men and women, such as healthunlocked, inspire, fertilityfriends, babycenter. just google them and you'll find lots of support and useful information. 37 pin
3/20/2017
yammama Yeah, I thought about that. We deal only with statistics, this can mislead. Actually we canít check the realness of these calculations. Itís a fear to be deceived. But also itís a hope this time we weíll get a success. How does your center figure out its success rate for example? Itís interesting 38 Rozental
3/20/2017
pin Thank you a lot, Pin! I know there are too many forums for ladies on the Internet where we can chat and waste our time. please do not upset if I said something bad and insulted your feelings. I guess the single good forum is enough to get a one really good advice to know what to do on. Because sometimes comparing brings just confusions. And then we try to gather our thoughts together and canít. So I think better to me to meet one adequative woman who give me useful advice. 39 Rozental
3/20/2017
I don't think that clinics want to fool their poential client by telling they have higher success rate than it really is. However, no one can tell for sure. As far as I know, statistics in biotex depends on child births. but i could be mistaken. you can find this information on their website. 40 yamamma
3/20/2017
rosental well, tastes differ. I like spend time chatting in different communities with different people. social networks, publics, forums. such things are connecting people and it's always interesting what to know their opinions and attitudes. I got your point of view however. my husband for example, he doesn't read any comments, he just doesn't trust people at all. but there are lots of good people who make their decisions only after comparing reviews. we all are people and we are free to choose our own ways. i'm glad if my words are helpful. wish you good luck!x 41 pin
3/21/2017
yammama Iím hurrying to dive into this program. really now Iím writing having amazing feeling inside. You know sometimes we feel everything goes perfect as though nothing was bad in the past. I can say for sure my own success rate was miserable. Ohh! Knees are shaking I predict Iíll get what I wanted for too long. Ask me something, please or just give me few words of cheeriness, I need to talk so much! 42 Rozental
3/21/2017
pin Thank you a lot! You even donít know how I trust people. And how itís important to hear good words from them. I know we live in the cruel world and people are different but my faith is strong. The same as my desire to hug and kiss my baby. Iíve made my decision on my own but here I made it more accurate. 43 Rozental
3/21/2017
really? don't make haste? have you discussed it with husband? which package are you going to choose? if I were you i would pay attention to Ideal package...just to avoid negative results or to be sure that if something goes wrong you can switch to surrogacy. no natter what you choose, i'm sending you lots of love! take care, hun x 44 yamamma
3/21/2017
yammama ThankU! Dear! You mean the package with possibility to try surrogacy in case I fail my ivf attempts? we've read but I didnít catch itÖ it costs more than 20 k, am I right? Sorry, remind me please. Weíve been discussing the necessity during the years and I was happy we quickly got an agreement this time. 45 Rozental
3/22/2017
oh, good for you that he supports you this much. yes, that package. you see, you don't need to pay all that money at once. also if you get pregnant from the first ivf attempt you'll pay only 5k after signing a contract and 5k after successful pregnancy confirmation. and only in case of a few negative results you pay for switching to surrogacy and then the rest of money after certain steps in a program. 46 yamamma
3/22/2017
yamamma You know huge number of failed attempts behind my back. And my brain and body are so tired of disappointments. How I mentioned before I donít intent to kill myself by another row of tries and if one or two are not enough to achieve Iíll stop it and apply to the other assistance as a surrogacy. Really? Itís quite suitable I mean the possibility to pay by parts and not to pay for assistance you havenít received. 47 Rozental
3/22/2017
yammama Excuse me we know about the difference between places of accommodation in case of different packages were chosen. And I need to find out what about this option? What will we have (I meant accommodation and other providing) if we order the Ideal package? I know you may not know such detailed stuff, but anyway thank you in advance. 48 Rozental
3/22/2017
yes, of course I know what you've been through. maybe i'll act just like you if I were totally childless. all the packages they offer consists of a few installments, except the one-attempt of DE IVF. It's really convenient. 48 yamamma
3/22/2017
regarding your question about accommodation, i really can't know. i was told that economy and standard clients stay in hotels and vip are in huge apartments. so, i think those who choose ideal pack must be in a hotel. i doubt they can be accommodated in apartment as they don't pay as much as VIPs do. 49 yamamma
3/22/2017

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